Everybody is a part of a systemic relation. A system consists of several different subsystems at different levels, which are partly self regulating. For instance each of us has self-regulating, autonomous systems on a physical level. These are for example the cardiovascular system, the hormonal system or the vegetative nervous system.
Even on some of these autonomous systems, one can have an affect by a repeatable change of behavior, since these are not completely detached from the physical reactions. This is so far, that human relationships influence biological structures, such as the regulation of gene activities at stress in the brain and body.
Other self-regulating subsystems of the human being are the mental system with the thinking, feeling and action or the social system. In this each one of us, shaped by culture, communication and behavior, interacts with each other in a certain way.
Thus the brain makes out of every psychological process a biological process with tangible physical effects. Conversely physical reactions, such as pain, have an impact on the psyche. That is why all living systems are open systems and mutually dependent. On the other hand, every single human being is itself only a subsystem, a dependent but not passive part of a superior system. This could be for example a group of humans, or the species of all living organisms.
Systemic thinking then means, that each individual person is actively embedded and effective in the most diverse aspects of life, which can have a wide variety of interactions in the everyday life of the individual. Not all interactions are directly recognizable.
Solutions can then only be conceived and implemented, if more and more references are increasingly taken into account. The separation of the individual from the whole is no longer conceivable. Information can thus only be gained through a reciprocal relationship, such as feedback. The reality experienced through communication is decisively influenced by the meaning given to it subjectively. The importance of a situation for a person is then an unconscious or conscious choice of how something is meant to be. Meanings are therefore learned and changeable.
The human being always wants everything to change and at the same time, he wants everything to remain constant.
Social system references of a person can represent an organization, a family, a couple or a single person. The decisive factor is how individuals of a system are related to each other and to themselves. How people feel, think and act thus determines their relationship to themselves and others. This means that systems are defined by their patterns of relationship and communication structures that are verbaly expressed or non verbal communicated by individual people.
This could emerge certain behavior patterns for some people, which lead to long-term dependencies. These are perhaps particularly rigid types and views, which have often an impact on the relationship of this person to him- or herself and others. Changing a relationship differently is not always easy. Being different is only possible, if people are conscious of their attachments, loyalties and expectations of their inherited identity.
Changes are more likely to happen, if the loyalty to the learned patterns, experienced situations or thoughts and feelings are questioned. Progress is only made, if one’s not afraid to challenge the limitation of experience, which is the limitation of the thinking. The precondition for this is not to be afraid to lose the familiar connection and safety. Autonomy is therefore consequently a conscious choice and by this, more than just a repetition of the biographical imprint. Nevertheless, there is probably no real autonomy without attachment as vice versa.